Category: Birth Work & Practice

Practical tools, comfort techniques, and real stories from the birth room. Dive into trauma-informed care, loss, surrogacy, and hands-on strategies that support families through labour and birth.

  • Doula As a Healer: Doing Your Own Inner Work While Supporting Others

    Doula As a Healer: Doing Your Own Inner Work While Supporting Others

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    Doula As a Healer: Doing Your Own Inner Work While Supporting Others

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    As doulas, we’re taught how to care for others, to hold space, soothe, share information, and advocate but doula as a healer also means caring for ourselves, noticing the parts within us that still ache and the emotions that arise when a client’s story mirrors our own or when we witness an injustice that hits too close to home.

    The reality is that doula work- or really any kind of birthwork- goes far beyond simply supporting families. We stand in sacred spaces where new life enters this world. We are present at the precipice of profound transformation.

    Every time we walk into a birthing space, a postpartum home, or a prenatal session, we don’t just bring the skills and definitions we learned in doula training; we bring our whole selves: our energy, our beliefs, our stories, and even our unhealed parts.

    The work we do isn’t separate from who we are. A doula who tends to their inner world — their emotional, spiritual, physical, and somatic wellbeing — becomes a vessel for deeper healing. When we do our inner work, we realize that the steadiness we offer our clients begins with the steadiness we cultivate within ourselves.

    Birthwork asks us to show up with open hearts in moments of raw vulnerability and, at times, to navigate trauma- our clients’ and our own. If we haven’t taken the time to explore our personal stories of pain, loss, or injustice, we may unintentionally carry that energy into the birth space.

    That said, doing our inner work doesn’t make us magically immune to triggers-it helps us become aware of them (which is a superpower in its own right!). This awareness allows us to pause, breathe, and respond from compassion rather than reactivity.

    Each of us is a collection of stories, shelved away either hesitantly or lovingly- and these stories shape the way we show up, both in our own lives and in the presence of our clients. The key isn’t to suppress your story, but to witness it. Notice when you feel resistance, judgment, or an emotional charge around a client’s experience- that’s often your cue that something within you is asking to be tended to.

    Ways to Nurture Your Own Healing While Serving Others

    • Journaling after each client: Reflect on what moments felt heavy, empowering, or triggering.
    • Grounding practices: Breathwork, prayer, or gentle movement between client meetings or births to regulate your nervous system.
    • Peer debriefing or mentorship: Find someone who can hold space for you without judgment.
    • Therapy or spiritual counseling: Normalize seeking professional help; your clients benefit when you’re emotionally grounded.
    • Rituals of release: After a birth, recite affirmations or a nature walk, to release the emotional energy you’ve held.

    The key is to find a rhythm that works for you… You give, then you empty, then you refill.

    As cliché as it sounds, you truly can’t pour from an empty cup- but you can pour from a full one that overflows with purpose, presence, and peace.

    Author: Asma Rahman, DSC Instructor, Certified Birth & Postpartum Doula[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text css=”.vc_custom_1761759265440{margin-bottom: 0px !important;}”]Asma Rahman bio thumb

    About the Author: Aunjrya Fleming

    Asma is a DSC Instructor and Certified Birth & Postpartum Doula, as well as a proud visible Muslim woman, activist, and mother of three. Passionate about accessible and faith-based birthwork, her approach is rooted in community care, advocacy, and anti-racism.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row]

  • What Every Doula Needs to Know Before Attending Births

    What Every Doula Needs to Know Before Attending Births

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    When we step into this work, we’re often drawn by the all-encompassing nature of birth — the sacredness, the strength, the transformation, the beauty. What every doula needs to know before attending births is that no amount of reading or training can fully prepare you for what it means to live birthwork: to be called at 3 a.m., to witness both triumph and heartbreak, and to hold space for stories that mirror parts of your own.

    Looking back at almost a decade of walking with clients on their birth journey, here are five lessons I wish I knew when I first started attending births. Consider these a reminder to ground yourself not just in skill, but in sustainability and spirit.

    1. Rest is part of your role.

    Early on, I thought being a doula meant saying yes to every call, showing up endlessly, and pushing through exhaustion. It took me time (and a few near-burnouts) to realize that the way we care for ourselves directly shapes the way we care for others.

    It’s no secret to birthworkers that birth is unpredictable, And so, you have to be predictable in how you honor your own body. Rest when you can, eat before you’re starving, stay hydrated, stretch, pray, breathe. These small acts are part of your professional preparation.

    A doula’s body is their strongest asset. Tend to it with the same respect and attentiveness that you offer your clients.

    2. Your systems will hold you when your energy can’t.

    Before every birth, we meticulously prep our doula bag with all the things we feel our clients might benefit from. Oils, snacks, notes, candles… but the real preparation is in the unseen systems that support you.

    Before births: Think about all the moving parts in your everyday life- appointments, caring for loved ones, tending to your herb garden, whatever fills your days. When you’re on call, those things don’t pause just because a client goes into labor. Planning ahead gives you the freedom to be fully present when it matters most. 

    If you have children, set up reliable backup childcare and keep a go-bag ready for them. Arrange pet care, communicate with family or friends who might need to step in, and build flexibility into your schedule for last-minute calls.

    The best practice is simple: make sure your life outside the birth space is tended to, so your heart and mind can be fully inside it.

    After births: Schedule decompression time. Journal the story while it’s fresh. Debrief with a mentor or peer. Build rituals that help you return to yourself. Maybeit’s prayer, a warm shower, a quiet walk, or sitting in silence with a cup of tea.

    Birthwork takes from your physical, emotional, and spiritual reserves. Systems are what keep you from pouring from an empty cup.

    3. Your inner work shapes the space you hold.

    Birth has a way of touching the tender parts of us- our own stories, our fears, our beliefs about safety and control. You can’t always predict which moment will stir something within you.

    So, doing your own inner work-whether through therapy, somatic practice, journaling, or spiritual reflection- helps you stay anchored. It allows you to hold space for your clients without absorbing their pain or projecting your own.

    The more self-aware you become, the more peaceful and present your energy will feel in a birthing room. Remember: your nervous system is part of the environment you bring into that space.

    4. You are already enough.

    Every new doula asks themselves the same question: Will I know what to do? And the answer, more often than not, is yes.

    You’ve trained. You’ve practiced. You’ve cultivated empathy, intuition, and presence. Those are the very tools birth requires most.

    You’ll keep growing. You’ll take more trainings, experience more births, refine your voice and how you doula. But even now, you have what it takes to make a profound difference in how someone experiences their birth. 

    Trust yourself. Trust your instincts. And above all, trust the Divine timing that placed you in each birth space you’re called to serve.

    5. Birthwork will change you. Let it.

    You might think you’re showing up to do this work, but the truth is: this work will also do something to you. It will humble you. It will stretch your capacity for compassion. It will deepen your faith- in the body, in the birthing process, and in the unseen wisdom guiding it all. Every birth teaches you something new about surrender, patience, and presence. Every family reminds you why this calling matters.

    So when you walk into your next birth space, walk in as both a learner and a guide. Know that you are part of a lineage of community members and birthworkers who have held others through transformation- and that is something sacred.

    Author: Asma Rahman, DSC Instructor, Certified Birth & Postpartum Doula[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text]

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    About the Author: Asma Rahman, DSC Instructor

    Asma is a DSC Instructor and Certified Birth & Postpartum Doula, as well as a proud visible Muslim woman, activist, and mother of three. Passionate about accessible and faith-based birthwork, her approach is rooted in community care, advocacy, and anti-racism.

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  • International Fertility Awareness Week: April 20-26 2025

    International Fertility Awareness Week: April 20-26 2025

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    International Fertility Awareness Week: April 20-26 2025

     

    Each year, during the last full week of April international conversations are focused on fertility during International Fertility Awareness Week. Both National Infertility Awareness Week (NIAW) and Canadian Fertility Awareness Week (CFAW) are held during the same week and voices are amplified to change the conversation around infertility. The purpose of these movements are to reduce stigma, educate the public about reproductive health and the challenges that many face in building a family, and empower those who experience fertility challenges. See NIAW initiatives here.

    This year, Fertility Matters Canada has some great events and initiatives during CFAW, and they’d love help in spreading the word. CFAW is a “nationwide movement dedicated to breaking the silence, raising awareness, and advocating for better fertility care across Canada. Each year, we come together to share real stories, amplify patient voices, and drive change for the 1 in 6 Canadians struggling with fertility. CFAW is about community, education, and action” (Fertility Matters Canada). 

    Here’s how you can get involved and support Fertility Matters Canada and their upcoming campaigns:

     

    Write a letter to your local electoral candidate-

    Fertility Matters Canada Launched a grassroots Federal Election Campaign for the upcoming federal election, aimed at urging candidates to expand fertility support and modernize the Assisted Human Reproduction Act of 2004. FMC’s goal is to reach 1,000 letters.

    How people can help:

    • Submit a letter to your local electoral candidates by visiting the following links:
    • Share the message: After submitting the letter, you’ll receive an email with details to forward to friends and family. You also encourage people to share the pinned posts on Instagram (@Fertility_Canada) and tag local candidates to keep pushing for enhanced fertility care.
    • More Information: Here is more information in ENGLISH and in FRENCH if you would like to create your own posts to promote the advocacy campaign.

     

    Share your Fertility Story

    Share your untold fertility story with Fertility Matters Canada so they can shine a light on the realities too often kept in the dark. Your story has the power to shift the conversation across Canada—bringing truth, empathy, and change to those facing fertility struggles. Whether you’re in the midst of your journey, reflecting on what you’ve overcome, or supporting a loved one, your voice matters. By sharing your story, you help break the silence, challenge stigma, and advocate for a more inclusive, compassionate conversation around fertility in Canada.

     

    Attend Light the Night

    Fertility Matters Canada hosts Light the Night annually at different monuments all over the country. “Focusing on bringing awareness to fertility in Canada, this event features landmarks from across Canada lighting green as a symbolic gesture to support those struggling with fertility or facing challenges in family building. Light the Night serves as a way to raise awareness about fertility, foster empathy, and create a sense of community among those affected” (FMC). Share and attend the Light the Night monuments near you, on Thursday, April 24th at dusk.

     

    Share CFAW Posts: 

    Share posts on social media including those about Light the Night, the Fertility Unfiltered Social: Brunch & Breakthroughs event, and more.

    Download the CFAW Social Media Toolkit to spread awareness

    Use the hashtags #CFAW2025 #FertilityUnfiltered and tag us in your posts

     

    Engage with content

    They’ll be sharing daily videos throughout CFAW, including Fertility Unfiltered episodes, Fertility Award winner highlights, and daily fertility stats. They’d appreciate shares to help amplify these messages. 

    Join FMC for daily Fertility Unfiltered patient video series, statistics by Canadian professionals, and celebrate daily with the announcement of the 2025 Fertility Award Winners! 

     

    Attend Fertility Unfiltered Social: Brunch & Breakthroughs, the powerful two-part closing event to Canadian Fertility Awareness Week (CFAW). 

    FMC wants to get real about fertility and family-building and this event is about real and raw conversations about fertility, family building, loss, resilience, and hope. 

    The event will include: 

    • A panel of bold voices sharing their unfiltered experiences
    • Delicious brunch, great company, and a safe space to connect and reflect with like-minded community
    • Thoughtfully curated goodie bags, because who doesn’t like some swag?
    • An inspiring call-to-action to push for fertility equity in Canada

    Whether you’ve lived it, are living it, or are supporting someone who is—this event is for YOU.


    -When: Saturday, April 26 | 10AM–2PM

    -Where: The Atrium at Ricarda’s, Toronto
    -Limited Spots 

    Sign Up!

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    Other upcoming Fertility Dates: 

    • World IVF Day – July 25
    • European Fertility Week (EFW): held annually in November
    • World Fertility Day – celebrated on November 2

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    Want to get involved in fertility conversations, fertility support, and fertility advocacy after Fertility Awareness Week is over? 

    Let’s Keep Talking about Fertility 

    At Doula School, we are passionate about talking about fertility all year long in our Fertility Doula program because we know just how important these conversations are. According to the WHO, 1 in 6 people globally face fertility challenges. Our very own Fertility Doula Program Coordinator Jessica Palmquist is also 1 in 6 and went through a unique journey to parenthood utilizing In Vitro Fertilization (IVF) to grow her family. Her fertility struggles are what inspired her to become a doula and work with Doula School as a passionate instructor. 

    Our Fertility Doula program otherwise known as our Fertility Support Practitioner is a cutting edge one of a kind program designed to equip graduates with providing clients with compassionate support and evidence-based practices in fertility, preconception, and assisted reproductive technologies.

    Let’s keep the conversations going and join us today!

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  • Using Doula Care as Community Aid: The Giving Equation

    Using Doula Care as Community Aid: The Giving Equation

    [vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text css=”.vc_custom_1684151324317{margin-bottom: 0px !important;}”]As I’ve been going through our Truth and Reconciliation Action Plan, I’ve been continuously thinking about doula care and community aid, and how we can continue to decolonize our practices. As doula care becomes more “trendy” in current society, as it continues to dominate mostly higher-class spaces, how do we reflect on the roots of doula care, and stay true to community work? Of course, as doulas we do not feed ourselves and pay the bills off of warm and fuzzy feelings, but I think it is realistic to say most of us enter the field with a certain amount of passion and drive to create change in our communities. Whether that be being inspired by our own birth experience, or noticing how much of a difference our own doula made, most of us come to doula care for a deep reason.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text css=”.vc_custom_1684151342874{margin-bottom: 0px !important;}”]However you identify, birth work has the ability to bring folks together. The birth and the postpartum periods are intimate and vulnerable. Individuals from marginalized communities may wish to hire someone with the same identity or lived experience as them. As someone from a certain background you may possess a set of skills, knowledge or spiritual/cultural teachings that someone from an outside identity may not. For example, a Muslim family may choose to hire a Muslim doula who may better understand their traditional customs and practices surrounding birth. An Indigenous family may choose an Indigenous doula who understands and celebrates their practices and understands the risk of violence within the medical system.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text css=”.vc_custom_1684151427232{margin-bottom: 0px !important;}”]

    Below are some tips on using your practice and voice as a doula to help your community:

    1. Marry your interests

    An easy equation for finding what population you want to serve is this: identifier + lived experience + passions and skills.

    Between your lived experiences and passions/interests and skill, lays your intended community. For example, as an Indigenous mental health practitioner who grew up low-income, I chose to narrow my focus on low-income families and trauma survivors. Think about the spaces you frequent, the groups you are a part of, your professional training and hobbies.

     

    Identifier: Indigenous, Queer

    Lived experience: Poverty

    Skill: Social work background

    Passion: Trauma

               _______________________________

    Target communities:

    Indigenous families

    Queer Families

    Low Income Families

    Trauma Survivors

     

    2. What can you afford to give?

    Whether that is your time, or money, or expertise. Some doulas choose to dedicate acouple of births per year pro-bono or sliding scale. Perhaps, you decide to attend protests and events as a community member that are relevant to your population. You may have resources you don’t mind sharing.or books to loan out. Be creative!

     

    3. Advocacy

    What issues are impacting your community? How can you use your voice in a way that helps others? Perhaps you can assist in social movements regarding reproductive health.How do you use your social media. What current issues are really important to you?

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    These are just a few of the ways that you can take your profession, and use it for social change. What other ways can you make waves?

     

    Here are some exploratory journal prompts for you:

    • Why did I choose to become a doula?

    • What social issues am I passionate about?

    • What can I afford to give?

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  • The Magic of Postpartum Support

    The Magic of Postpartum Support

    [vc_row][vc_column][mk_padding_divider][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text css=”.vc_custom_1679838820005{margin-bottom: 0px !important;}”]You’ve given birth and become a parent but it can feel like there is no time for recovery. The focus shifts almost entirely to your baby and your own needs can get sidelined. It’s exciting but also overwhelming and exhausting, both physically and emotionally. And just when new parents are at their most vulnerable, their babies take centre stage.

    There are a lot of things about the postpartum period that you can’t control: how feeding will go, how your baby sleeps, your hormone fluctuations, etc. But you CAN prepare a great support system and a postpartum doula is an important part of that. Having access to a postpartum doula relieves a lot of stress so you can focus on the important business of bonding with your baby. If you haven’t worked with a doula before, it can be pretty hard to grasp what it is exactly that doulas do. And while birth doulas have been gaining in popularity, postpartum doulas are still a mystery to most expecting parents.

    So what magic does a postpartum doula offer?

    A postpartum doula helps you build community. The saying, “It takes a village” is true, a postpartum doula will help you rally family, friends and neighbours to feed you and your family nutritious food, supply solicited (and unsolicited) advice, and take care of older siblings. If support is in short supply they will work with you to find the places in the community that you can lean into to build your new postpartum community.

    A postpartum doula helps build your confidence. Whether it be in feeding, or newborn care, when you have someone there to affirm that your choices are actually right on track, you start to believe in and trust yourself and your observations about your baby.

    A postpartum doula supports your whole family. Partners who have doulas learn skills earlier and are more able to take on care of their infant alone earlier. Grandparents who have doulas around learn to care for new parents in a gentle and supportive way, able to use their instincts and experience in a way that supports their choice. Siblings gain another supportive adult to tend to their needs and help them bond with the baby and have time with their parents one on one.

    A postpartum doula is well-versed in normal newborn behaviour and appearance, and normal postpartum healing. They can’t diagnose medical issues or mental health issues, but they can point out things that don’t seem normal to them so that parents can get an opinion from the appropriate professional.

    A postpartum doula can help parents interpret those newborn cries—and the reflexes, body language, and other sounds that accompany newborn life! This is hugely empowering to parents who desperately want to know what is going on in that new little person.

    A postpartum doula knows the importance of postpartum planning and will help you sort through what you need, the support you have and will need to have and how to navigate those early weeks and months with the new baby. ( check out our postpartum planning guide below)

    A postpartum doula can work with you during the day or overnight. Some postpartum doulas offer one or the other and others offer a mix of both.

    A postpartum doula is trained to recognize the difference between the typical “baby blues” and something more serious, like postpartum depression or anxiety. They can observe the new parent’s behaviour and determine if there may be a cause for concern, and as an impartial, objective third party they can provide a sounding board for her when they are ready to share their feelings.

    A postpartum doula understands the need for the family’s care to be well-rounded; it is important that both their physical AND emotional needs are met. This vigilance truly is the first line of defence against postpartum mental health issues.

    The postpartum period is a time of great transition, a time when people become parents, where they get to know themselves and their baby in this beautiful and challenging time. A primary goal of a doula is to meet a pregnant or postpartum person where they’re at. To find what is most important and most needed for you and your family.

    Want your postpartum period to be calmer, do you want to feel more confident, bond more deeply with your baby? Hire a postpartum doula today![/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][mk_padding_divider][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text css=”.vc_custom_1679838899311{margin-bottom: 0px !important;}”]Our postpartum wellness plan is all about creating the space for you and your family to discuss and plan for the transition that is parenthood. To gather your commulity and bond with your baby.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_btn title=”Download the Postpartum Wellness Plan here ” color=”turquoise” link=”url:https%3A%2F%2Fstefanie-techops.wisdmlabs.net%2Fwp-content%2Fuploads%2F2023%2F03%2Fpostpartum-care-plan.pdf|target:_blank”][/vc_column][/vc_row]

  • Doula’s Toolbox: Why Birth Affirmations Matter!

    Doula’s Toolbox: Why Birth Affirmations Matter!

    [vc_row][vc_column][mk_padding_divider][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text css=”.vc_custom_1679509016754{margin-bottom: 0px !important;}”]So let’s talk affirmations. The concept of self-affirmation isn’t by any means complex or far-fetched. Positive affirmations are statements or phrases that, when repeated daily, can help challenge negative thoughts and boost self-confidence.

    First, a little science. 

    To understand how positive affirmations work and how you can make the most of them, we have to familiarize you with neuroplasticity, which is the ability to rewire the brain. Despite being one of the most sophisticated and complex structures in the known universe, the human brain can get a little mixed up on the difference between reality and imagination. This very loophole serves as the basis of self-affirmation. To elaborate, when you repeat affirming statements daily, you’re helping your brain create a mental image of the goal you’re trying to achieve or the version of yourself you are aspiring to become.

    Affirmations require regular practice if you want to make lasting, long-term changes to the ways that you think and feel, even for birth. There is MRI evidence suggesting that certain neural pathways are increased when people practice self-affirmation tasks (Cascio et al., 2016). If you want to be super specific, the ventromedial prefrontal cortex—involved in positive valuation and self-related information processing—becomes more active when we consider our personal values (Falk et al., 2015; Cascio et al., 2016). There is also some reasearch asserting that affirmations can reduce the rate of medical interventions during childbirth.Empirical studies suggest positive affirmations can:

    • Decrease health-deteriorating stress (Sherman et al., 2009; Critcher & Dunning, 2015);
    • Help change the way we view “threatening” messages with less resistance and perception (Logel & Cohen, 2012);
    • Self-affirmation has been demonstrated to lower stress and rumination (Koole et al., 1999; Weisenfeld et al., 2001).

    Think of it this way. When you repeat the same thoughts in your head, positive or negative, you start to believe them and your brain forms a pathway of neurons. There is a popular saying: Your words become your world.

    Anyway most importantly the purpose of affirmations in labour is actually quite simple: Birth affirmations are sayings or statements designed to change your mindset and help you maintain a positive outlook or mood regarding the birth process.

    Preparing your mind for labour and birth is really important, and it is no different from eating well or working on specific exercises to prepare your body for labour.

    In order for birth affirmations to work, you need to keep a few things in mind:

    You  have to believe what you’re saying

    When you have a negative thought or fear, recognize it and deal with it first. This study found that participants with low self-esteem who repeated the phrase “I am lovable” actually had more negative emotions and still didn’t feel lovable because they didn’t really believe what they were saying.

    Try to get to the root of your fears or negativity around birth.  Talk to a counsellor, listen to or read positive birth stories and surround yourself with other positive influences.

    Keep in mind that sometimes we have to keep saying affirmations over and over again until we do believe it, which brings me to my next point.

    Repeat, repeat, repeat!

    Create a plan to practice your birth affirmations daily or a few times a week leading up to your birth. Find an affirmation meditation you enjoy, write them in a journal, and practice with your partner, doula or support person, you can even record your own voice memo practicing your affirmations to listen back. Practicing during your pregnancy will make using these affirmations during labour more effective.

    They are not just for vaginal birthing.

    There’s a common misconception that affirmations or hypnobirthing tracks are only helpful for people planning for an unmedicated birth experience. Plus affirmations are a great tool to complement other forms of pain management in your plan (think about that long drive to the hospital before you get an epidural).

    Make them visible: Once your contractions pick up, channelling your focus on affirmations will be more challenging. Print out a copy of your affirmations, save them to your phone, or pack affirmation cards (see the downloadable pdf)  in your bag will give you a visual point of reference to help keep your focus on your affirmations as you ride the waves of labour.

    Now that you’ve got a sense of how affirmations work, where can you find the right positive messages for you?  We have a downloadable PDF with a few ( ALSO for doulas this deck is customizable you can add your logo) you can google, or you can ask friends and family to help you out.

    What matters is that they are meaningful and believable for you![/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][mk_padding_divider][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_btn title=”Customizable CANVA affirmation deck ” color=”turquoise” link=”url:https%3A%2F%2Fwww.canva.com%2Fdesign%2FDAFd8HHbv8Y%2F_hEn_HPs8cN6DuVZfUaADw%2Fview%3Futm_content%3DDAFd8HHbv8Y%26utm_campaign%3Ddesignshare%26utm_medium%3Dlink%26utm_source%3Dpublishsharelink%26mode%3Dpreview|target:_blank”][/vc_column][/vc_row]

  • 7 things you Should know about Menstruation and Why a Fertility Doula can Help!

    7 things you Should know about Menstruation and Why a Fertility Doula can Help!

    [vc_row][vc_column][vc_single_image image=”491531″ img_size=”full” alignment=”center”][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][mk_padding_divider][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text css=”.vc_custom_1679506139819{margin-bottom: 0px !important;}”]A menstrual period is the monthly shedding of the uterine lining. Menstruation is also known by the terms menses, menstrual period, menstrual cycle or period. Menstruation is a normal and healthy part of life for most people with a uterus and no matter what you think you know about it age, hormones or even the weather can change how a person menstruates and how it feels ( A reason for why connecting with a Fertility Doula is a good idea!). Period facts are often obscured by myths about menstruation.  Most people with a uterus get their first period between the ages of 10 and 15 and continue to have their period until their late 40s or early 50s.

    So let’s talk about some period facts:

    1. You loose less blood than you think you do: First off, you need to know that only approx. 50% of menstrual fluid is blood. ‘Menstrual fluid’ is not the same as ‘blood’, menstrual fluid also contains cervical mucous and vaginal secretions. On average a person loses anywhere between 1-6 tablespoons of menstrual fluid during each period. It can be thin or clumpy and varies in colour from dark red to brown or pink.
    2. It can take up to 3 years from the beginning of menstruation for your period to become regular: It’s common for cycles to be somewhat unpredictable for about two years after the first period. This means periods may not always come at the same time every cycle. Your periods may also look and feel somewhat different cycle-to-cycle. The first period may be quite short, with only a little bit of bleeding and the second period may be longer with more bleeding. After a couple of years, your cycles should become more regular, but may still continue to vary. Most cycles settle into a predictable rhythm about six years after menarche (the onset of your period).
    3. The average menstrual cycle is about 25- 30 days but not always: The average length of a menstrual cycle is 28 days. The days between periods is your menstrual cycle length. However, a cycle can range in length from 21 days to about 35 days and still be normal. Most people have their period (bleed) for between three and seven days. Once you reach your 20s, your cycles become more consistent and regular. Once your body begins transitioning to menopause, your periods will change again and become more irregular. From the time of your first cycle to menopause, the average menstruating person will have around 450 periods in their lifetime.  Added up, this equates to around 10 years — or about 3,500 days — of the average menstruating person ’s life that will be spent menstruating.
    4. Steps of your Cycle: The rise and fall of your hormones trigger the steps in your menstrual cycle. Your hormones cause the organs of your reproductive tract to respond in certain ways. The specific events that occur during your menstrual cycle are:
      1. The menses phase: This phase, which typically lasts from day one to day five, is the time when the lining of your uterus sheds through your vagina if pregnancy hasn’t occurred. Most people bleed for three to five days, but a period lasting only three days to as many as seven days is usually not a cause for worry.
      2. The follicular phase: This phase typically takes place from days six to 14. During this time, the level of the hormone estrogen rises, which causes the lining of your uterus (the endometrium) to grow and thicken. In addition, another hormone — follicle-stimulating hormone (FSH) — causes follicles in your ovaries to grow. During days 10 to 14, one of the developing follicles will form a fully mature egg (ovum).
      3. Ovulation: This phase occurs roughly at about day 14 in a 28-day menstrual cycle. A sudden increase in another hormone — luteinizing hormone (LH) — causes your ovary to release its egg. This event is ovulation. However, some people do not ovulate or they ovulate at different times, more about this later.
      4. The luteal phase: This phase lasts from about day 15 to day 28. Your egg leaves your ovary and begins to travel through your fallopian tubes to your uterus. The level of the hormone progesterone rises to help prepare your uterine lining for pregnancy. If the egg becomes fertilized by sperm and attaches itself to your uterine wall (implantation), you become pregnant. If pregnancy doesn’t occur, estrogen and progesterone levels drop and the thick lining of your uterus sheds during your period.
    5.  Let’s talk about ovulation: Ovulation usually happens once each month, about two weeks before your next period. Ovulation can last from 16 to 32 hours. It is possible to get pregnant in the five days before ovulation and on the day of ovulation, but it’s more likely in the three days leading up to and including ovulation. Once the egg is released, it will survive up to 24 hours. If sperm reaches the egg during this time, you may get pregnant. Some people with a uterus do not ovulate regularly. This is common in the first two to three years after your periods start and during the lead-up to menopause. Some conditions, such as polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS) and amenorrhoea (when periods stop due to excessive exercise or eating disorders) may cause irregular ovulation. Individuals with certain hormone conditions do not ovulate at all. It is possible to ovulate and not have a period after. It is possible to get pregnant without having periods in several months, but the chance of pregnancy of much lower when you are not having periods, compared to when you have regular periods. It is also possible to experience monthly periods without going through ovulation first- this is considered abnormal and is the result of something called an “anovulatory cycle”.
    6. Your periods get worse when it is cold: This is definitely an amazing period fact: cold weather can impact your period, making it heavier and longer than normal. During the winter months, a menstruating person’s flow, period duration, and even pain level are longer than in the summer. This pattern also extends to women who live in colder climates rather than warmer temperatures. The seasons can also affect your PMT too — the darker, shorter days can adversely impact your mood when combined with female productive hormones. This is thought to be because of a lack of sunshine, which helps our bodies to produce vitamin D and dopamine — which both boost our moods, happiness, concentration and all-around health levels.
    7. Periods after Pregnancy: After birth, your periods will return at your body’s own pace. It’s possible for your periods to return as soon as 4 to 6 weeks after childbirth. If you bottle feed or partially bodyfeed your baby, you’ll tend to start having periods sooner than if you exclusively bodyfeed. If you choose to bodyfeed exclusively, your first period may not return for several months. For those who keep bodyfeeding, it might not return for 1 to 2 years. The range of “normal”, is enormous. Experiencing a menstrual period does not mean that your menstrual cycle has returned permanently and without an accurate clinical test, you won’t know whether or not you ovulated (released an egg and could potentially become pregnant). You are more likely to ovulate and resume regular periods if your baby is going for more than a few hours without breastfeeding (for instance, at night) and your baby is more than 6 months old. Many bodyfeeding parents experience a time of delayed fertility during breastfeeding. This is very common and is referred to in many places as the Lactation Amenorrhea Method (LAM) of contraception. However it is important to remember that you can get pregnant while nursing, even without a period.

    These 7 facts are just the tip of the iceburg when it comes to understanding your body and menstruation. If you have questions, whether you are trying to get pregnant or not a Fertility Doula can help with that![/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][mk_padding_divider][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_single_image image=”491536″ img_size=”medium”][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_btn title=”Download the infographic here” color=”turquoise” link=”url:https%3A%2F%2Fstefanie-techops.wisdmlabs.net%2Fwp-content%2Fuploads%2F2023%2F03%2F7-things-to-know-about-your-cycle-1.pdf|target:_blank”][/vc_column][/vc_row]

  • Interested in becoming a doula? What is holding you back?

    Interested in becoming a doula? What is holding you back?

    [vc_row][vc_column][mk_padding_divider][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text css=”.vc_custom_1678112925784{margin-bottom: 0px !important;}”]There are a lot of myths and misconceptions out there about doula work. You have to be “crunchy”, have your own children, your too young or too old. I am here to tell you not a single one of those things is relevant to doula work.

    I began my doula journey well before I had kids when I was working a full-time job and was looking for something to reignite my passion. I didn’t know exactly what I wanted to do but I wanted to do something with babies.

    So I signed up for a training course, drove 3 hours to take it, stayed in a sketchy motel and left feeling equal parts inspired and overwhelmed. Taking on something new is scary. Fear is one of life’s biggest paralyzers. All of us are afraid of failing, afraid of change, and transitions to something new often feel impossible.

    My journey to birth work was not speedy. I took my time. Took in the learning, and made small changes, it took me almost 5 years to dive into birthwork full-time. Deciding to take a course you are passionate about is the beginning, it’s a step forward, not a deep dive.

    Often a barrier to taking that step is the fear of not knowing how to do it. Worrying about not knowing how to do it is a waste of time. Instead, learn how to. Set up an informational interview with other doulas in your area. Ask how they got started and if they have any tips for going forward. If you align with their values and style ask if they are willing to be your mentor.

    Also, get to know your training organization. Set up a consultation with the training program you are interested in. Ask all the questions. In fact, check a few out and go with the one that you feel most inspired by.

    When I signed up for the doula course at first I was not sure I could afford it but in reality, with a little planning, I made it work. If you are questioning whether you can afford it. Ask yourself: When will you have enough money? Even if you win the lottery, will that be enough money for you to follow your dreams? What changes can you make to your income to set a little aside to take the course? Is there a grant you can access or funding? Do you have a family member or friend who will support your dream with a loan or gift? Nothing is impossible with a little ingenuity.

    Lastly, time. It’s on everyone’s minds. How will you make the time? We all have incredibly busy lives and are exhausted and overwhelmed. However, making time for something you love means making the time, even if it starts with 15 minutes a day it’s the first step. Remind yourself that if you’re busy now, you’ll probably continue to be busy later, so set aside time for your dreams today.

    So my potential doula. What is holding you back?[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][mk_padding_divider][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text css=”.vc_custom_1678113462893{margin-bottom: 0px !important;}”]About the author.

    Sondra is the Program Coordinator for DTC and a mother of 2, a full-time doula and a counsellor. She has a passion for teaching new doulas how to build a life and business that works best for them. [/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row]

  • Why Black Futures Begin with Birth

    Why Black Futures Begin with Birth

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    Why Black Futures Begin with Birth

    Written by Keira Grant  – DTC EDI Lead for Racialized Communities

    February is widely known as Black History Month. This term has rubbed me the wrong way since I was a kid, but it took me a while to put my finger on why. The reference to “history” is full of loaded assumptions that are highly convenient to colorblind multiculturalism. It suggests that racism toward Black people is something that happened a long time ago, maybe in a faraway place. Then slavery ended and then there was Black excellence.

    Of course, there have always been excellent Black people, but that’s not really how the story goes. The beliefs that made slavery possible for centuries are part of the fabric of society. Even when we are excellent by eurocentric, capitalistic standards, it could still go the way it went for Tyre Nichols.

    The violence that brutally ended the life of Tyre and so many others like him flows through all social institutions, not just policing. In countries such as the United States and the United Kingdom where race-based health data is collected, these data show that Black birthers are anywhere from 3 to 4 times more likely to die in childbirth than their white counterparts. Our babies are also at a significantly increased risk of death. This holds true, independent of education and socioeconomic status. The birth stories of celebrities like Beyoncé Knowles, Serena Williams, and Tatiana Ali, (whose story we’ll be discussing at March’s Equity Watch Party), bring these statistics to life.

    At this time, many players in the Canadian healthcare system are calling for the collection of disaggregated race-based data. In the US, the collection of these data, and the resultant evidence of disparities has led to increased funding for programs that improve Black maternal health, including a proliferation of programs for accessing a Black doula. It has also supported requirements that health professionals receive training in implicit bias.

    It’s been widely reported in the news that Tyre Nichols called out for his mom during the brutal attack that ended his life. Every Black person who dies as a result of structural violence is someone’s baby. When systemic disrespect and harm toward Black birthers and babies is normalized, rationalized, and justified it is the start of a pattern that impacts Black people across the lifespan. Emerging research is actually demonstrating that racial stress accelerates the aging process of Black women.

    Creating a circle of love and support around Black birthers and their babies that is honest about what we are up against, and that celebrates our lives and well-being can have a profound impact on how someone’s life starts. It can affect how their life continues by showing them and their families that it is possible to create spaces where Black people are affirmed and nourished.

    We talk about equity, diversity, and inclusion in this work all the time. During February, we have additional opportunities for our members to learn and engage in dialog about anti-Black racism and racial health equity in perinatal care. We are using the language Black Futures Month, “a visionary, forward-looking spin on celebrations of Blackness in February”.

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  • 2023 Social Media Event Calendar

    2023 Social Media Event Calendar

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