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The Symbiotic Journey: How Prenatal Yoga Teaching Enriched My Doula Practice

[vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text css=”.vc_custom_1726606915460{margin-bottom: 0px !important;}”]The worlds of prenatal yoga teaching and doula support may initially seem like separate realms, but my experience has taught me that they are beautifully intertwined. As someone who has worn both hats, I’ve come to appreciate how teaching prenatal yoga profoundly enriched my role as a doula. This symbiotic journey has enriched my life as a birthworker and prenatal yoga teacher, and elevated my offering of comprehensive support and nurturing guidance to expectant parents as they embark on their unique paths to parenthood.

Mind-Body Connection:

My experience as a prenatal yoga teacher has deepened my understanding of the physical, emotional, and spiritual aspects of pregnancy and birth. It has allowed me to provide holistic support to expectant parents, empowering them to embrace the beauty and strength within themselves as they navigate the profound journey of childbirth. Prenatal yoga is all about cultivating a deep mind-body connection. 

Breathwork Mastery:

As a yoga teacher, I learned to guide expectant mothers through postures and breathwork that foster this connection, preparing them for childbirth. This understanding translated seamlessly into my role as a doula, where I could emphasize the importance of staying connected to one’s body during labor, enhancing relaxation and coping strategies.

Teaching various pranayama techniques helps to explore the profound impact of breath on the body and mind. As a doula, I now guide birthing individuals in harnessing the power of breath to manage pain, stay grounded, and maintain focus during their pregnancies and in labor.

Adaptability and Personalized Support:

Prenatal yoga classes are filled with individuals at different stages of pregnancy, each with unique needs. Teaching yoga honed my ability to adapt and provide personalized support to cater to these diverse requirements. As a doula, I can now better understand and meet the individualized needs of laboring people and their partners, ensuring a tailored and empowering birth experience. Many yoga postures can be adapted and used as laboring and birthing positions. Practicing this and embodying natural pelvic and spinal movements is hugely beneficial.

Empowerment Through Education:

In both roles, education is a cornerstone. Prenatal yoga teaching reinforced the importance of providing expectant parents with knowledge about their bodies and birthing options. Armed with this understanding, I can empower my doula clients to make informed choices during childbirth, fostering a sense of ownership over their birthing experiences.

Creating a Safe Space:

Prenatal yoga classes are sanctuaries of support and community. As a yoga teacher, I discovered the significance of creating a safe and welcoming space for expectant mothers to connect, share, and grow. This experience translates directly into my doula practice, where I prioritize helping individuals feel at home in their bodies and creating a supportive environment where birthing individuals feel heard, respected, and cherished.

Embracing Mindfulness:

Prenatal yoga introduced me to mindfulness practices that encourage present-moment awareness and self-compassion. My own practice of mindfulness and my ability to guide individuals with compassion, empathy, and a deep appreciation for the sacredness of pregnancy and birth is something that I feel stands out to my clients. These tools have become invaluable in my doula work, where I guide individuals in staying centered, reducing anxiety, and embracing the beauty and intensity of their birthing experiences.

The journey of teaching prenatal yoga has been a symbiotic one, enriching my doula practice in ways I couldn’t have anticipated. It’s a reminder that our roles as prenatal yoga teachers and doulas are interconnected, both focused on nurturing and supporting individuals on their transformative journeys into parenthood. 

If adding yoga or embodied pregnancy and postpartum education has been calling you, check out our new offerings here.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text css=”.vc_custom_1726604707769{margin-bottom: 0px !important;}”]Julia Forest

About the Author

Julia (she/her) is an international yoga teacher, birth doula, women’s health advocate, and closet artist who is passionate about health, environmentalism and empowered birth. She is co-creator of the internationally renown “Sacred Birth Yoga & Doula Training”, is founding director of Awakened Spirit Yoga and co-founder of the Wellkind Foundation, a non-profit that focuses on community empowerment and wellbeing through the lens of permaculture. She also created the Sacred Earth Yoga Training, the first yoga teacher training program that combines yoga, mindfulness, permaculture and leadership to transform lives and communities. Julia is Co-Director of Doula School.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row]

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Conquering Imposter Syndrome: A Guide for Doulas

[vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text title=”Conquering Imposter Syndrome: A Guide for Doulas” css=”.vc_custom_1725986800661{margin-bottom: 0px !important;}”]Doulas play an essential role in guiding and supporting individuals through one of life’s most transformative experiences—childbirth. Their work is deeply impactful, yet many doulas grapple with imposter syndrome, feeling like they don’t truly belong in their role or doubting their abilities.

If you’re a doula experiencing these feelings, you’re not alone.

Here’s a guide to help you overcome imposter syndrome and embrace the incredible work you do.

 

Understanding Imposter Syndrome

Imposter syndrome is the internal experience of believing that you’re not as competent or capable as others perceive you to be. It’s common among many professionals, including doulas. You might feel like you’re faking your expertise, that you don’t deserve your success, or that you’re going to be “found out” at any moment.

 

  1. Acknowledge Your Feelings

The first step to overcoming imposter syndrome is to acknowledge that it exists. Recognize that feeling like an imposter doesn’t mean you are one. It’s a common struggle and doesn’t diminish the value of your work. By admitting these feelings, you can start addressing them more constructively.

 

  1. Reflect on Your Achievements

Take time to reflect on your journey and accomplishments. Consider the training you’ve undergone, the clients you’ve successfully supported, and the positive feedback you’ve received. Keeping a journal of your achievements and client successes can help remind you of your competence and the impact you’ve made.

 

  1. Seek Feedback and Support

One of the best ways to combat imposter syndrome is to seek feedback from colleagues and clients. Constructive feedback can reinforce your strengths and identify areas for growth. Additionally, surrounding yourself with a supportive network of fellow doulas can provide reassurance and validation. Engage in peer support groups or mentorship programs to share experiences and gain confidence.

 

  1. Continuously Educate Yourself

Staying updated with the latest research and best practices in childbirth and doula support can bolster your confidence. Continuous learning helps you feel more secure in your role and ensures that you are providing the best possible care. Attend workshops, read relevant books, and participate in professional development opportunities.

 

  1. Set Realistic Expectations

No one is perfect, and it’s essential to set realistic expectations for yourself. Understand that you will have successes and challenges. Embrace a growth mindset, where you view challenges as opportunities to learn and grow rather than as failures.

 

 

  1. Practice Self-Compassion

Be kind to yourself. Self-compassion involves treating yourself with the same kindness and understanding that you would offer a friend. When you make a mistake or face a challenging situation, acknowledge it with compassion rather than self-criticism. Remember, you are doing important work, and it’s okay to have moments of doubt.

 

  1. Celebrate Your Successes

Don’t forget to celebrate your successes, both big and small. Recognizing and celebrating your achievements helps reinforce your sense of competence and accomplishment. Whether it’s a successful birth, positive client feedback, or a new skill you’ve mastered, take time to acknowledge your hard work and progress.

 

  1. Visualize Your Impact

Visualize the positive impact you have on the lives of your clients. Think about the relief, joy, and empowerment you bring to families during a pivotal moment in their lives. Keeping this impact in mind can help you see the value in your work and remind you why you chose this path in the first place.

 

Imposter syndrome is a challenge that many doulas face, but it doesn’t define your capabilities or worth. By acknowledging your feelings, reflecting on your achievements, seeking feedback, continuing education, setting realistic expectations, practicing self-compassion, celebrating your successes, and visualizing your impact, you can overcome these doubts and embrace your role with confidence.

Remember, your presence and support are invaluable, and you are more than capable of providing the compassionate care your clients need.

 

 

 

Shandelle Ferguson (she/her)

Doula Canada Instructor, Labour Doula and Postpartum Doula

Certified Labour and Postpartum Doula (Doula Canada)

Shandelle Ferguson is originally from Newfoundland but now calls Nova Scotia her home. With a passion for changing birth culture in Atlantic Canada, you can find her chatting with other doulas, reaching out to birth professionals and helping new parents in their journey into parenthood.  Shandelle is a certified Labor and Birth and Postpartum Doula with Blossom and Birth Doula Services.

A mother to three, you can find her drinking coffee, or wine, and spending time with her family.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row]

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The Self-Care Side of Doula Life: Avoiding Burnout with a Smile

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The Self-Care Side of Doula Life: Avoiding Burnout with a Smile

Being a doula is as rewarding as it is challenging. After all, who else can claim their workplace involves bringing new life into the world on a daily basis? But let’s be real, between the 3 AM calls and emotional support marathons, even the most seasoned doulas can feel the wear and tear. That’s why mastering the art of self-care isn’t just nice—it’s essential for survival in the doula biz! Here’s how you can keep your own batteries charged, dodge compassion fatigue, and manage stress with a grin.

1. Start with the Basics: Naptime Isn’t Just for Babies

Remember how parents are always advised to sleep when the baby sleeps? Well, doulas should nap when… anytime possible! Sleep might seem like a luxury when your phone is buzzing with birthing emergencies, but grabbing those Z’s is crucial. Lack of sleep can make anyone grumpy—even those with saint-like patience. So, curtain off some snooze time; your body (and your clients) will thank you.

2. Laugh It Off: The Secret Doula Superpower

Laughter might not be documented in your training manual, but it should be. It’s a stress-buster, a bond builder, and a great way to lighten the mood in tense situations. Try cracking a joke after a long birthing session (timing and audience awareness are key, of course!). A good giggle can refresh the soul just as much as an hour of meditation—plus, it’s more fun.

3. Hydrate Like You’re Prepping for a Marathon (Because You Kind of Are)

Hydration is the unsung hero of doula work. Staying hydrated helps maintain your energy levels, keeps your mind clear, and prevents those pesky headaches that can sneak up after hours in a warm birthing room. Think of your water bottle as an essential tool of the trade—right up there with your comforting presence and soothing words.

4. Find Your Tribe: A Vent Session Does Wonders

Connecting with fellow doulas can be incredibly therapeutic. After all, who better understands the highs and lows of doula life than another doula? Whether it’s a formal support group or an informal coffee meet-up, sharing stories, tips, and maybe some frustrations can help you feel understood and rejuvenated. Plus, it’s a chance to exchange those epic birth stories that only

doulas can truly appreciate it.

5. Set Boundaries Like a Pro

Boundaries are not just for playpens! As doulas, we invest emotionally in our clients’ experiences, which is why it’s vital to know when to step back and recharge. It’s okay to turn off your phone during personal time or to say no when your schedule is packed. Remember, you can’t pour from an empty cup, and setting boundaries helps ensure your cup stays at least half-full (or however you prefer your coffee).

6. Engage in Non-Doula Delights

Sometimes, the best way to handle the stresses of doula work is to do something utterly unrelated. Take up a hobby that makes you lose track of time—be it painting, hiking, or even salsa dancing. Engaging in activities that bring you joy and relaxation can provide a much-needed break from your professional life and help keep burnout at bay.

7. Practice Saying ‘I Need Help’

It might come as a surprise, but doulas need support too. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, seek help, whether it’s professional counseling or simply talking to a friend. Admitting you need assistance isn’t a weakness; it’s a profound strength and an integral part of self-care.

8. Celebrate Your Wins, Big and Small

Every birth you assist with, every new mom you comfort, and every dad you reassure is a victory. Celebrate these moments. Keep a joy journal or a smile box where you save notes, photos, or little keepsakes from your clients. During tougher days, these mementos can serve as powerful reminders of why you do what you do.

Wrapping It Up With a Smile

So, dear doulas, while you’re out there changing diapers and lives, remember to take a moment for yourselves. Self-care isn’t just about spa days and bubble baths—it’s about keeping your internal well-being in check so you can continue doing the incredible work you do. And if all else fails, remember, there’s nothing that a good doula dance party can’t fix!

Here’s to you, the unsung heroes in the delivery rooms. Keep thriving, keep smiling, and remember, you’re not just helping to bring new lives into the world—you’re also creating a space of love and care that starts with you.

 

Desiree Wills – Certified Postpartum Doula, DTC Alumni

As a Postpartum Doula, Desiree aims to empower families to approach parenting with self-compassion, a willingness to learn from mistakes, and the understanding that perfection isn’t the goal. She provides essential support, helping families feel more at ease and better prepared for life with a baby, filling the gap that may be left by family and community.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_gallery interval=”3″ images=”520909″ img_size=”200×100″][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_text_separator][/vc_column][/vc_row]

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Embracing Mothering, Releasing Motherhood: Women’s History Month

[vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text css=”.vc_custom_1711640523303{margin-bottom: 0px !important;}”]I loved one-sided “conversations” with my son when he was an infant and it’s one of my favorite things about postpartum visits now. I refer to all my clients by their first names, however, when I’m providing postpartum support to clients I know identify with terms like “woman”, “mother”, and “mom”, I often find myself talking to Baby about how wonderful their mama is and what a great job she’s doing, especially when they get to the stage where their eyes follow her around the room lovingly. 

This often sparks a conversation with the client, especially if no one else is there. That’s part of my goal. In a patriarchal world, “mother” is a loaded construct. Adjusting to the idea that you are now someone’s “mama” is one of the most emotionally and psychologically intense aspects of the postpartum experience for first and only-timers because of everything that is expected of motherhood. 

Canadian feminist scholar Dr. Andrea O’Reilly has devoted her academic career to understanding what it means to be a mother. A mother of three herself, she understands “motherhood” as something separate from “mothering”. Motherhood is a patriarchal institution that sets rigid, specific, and unattainable expectations on the care work of raising children as a means of exerting control over women’s bodies and lives. To meet patriarchal expectations of motherhood women must be selfless, long-suffering, patient and kind, and compliant with expectations of good, wholesome women. Patriarchy’s archetypal mother does not sexualize herself, but she also doesn’t “let herself go”. She keeps an immaculate home and serves balanced, from scratch meals. She has well-groomed, well-behaved children. She always knows exactly what to say and do to comfort her family and keep peace and order in the home. By the 1980s, contributing to the household income was added to the list of expectations. As an avid fan of The Cosby Show, it did not strike me as unusual that high-powered lawyer and mom of 5 Clare Huxtable would make fresh squeezed OJ and pancakes from scratch for her brood on Saturday mornings, served in the comfort of their stunning, self-cleaning Park Avenue home.

As a working mom of one in 2024, it strikes me as absurdly implausible, and that’s intentional. The point is not for anyone to be as perfect as an 80s sitcom mom. The point is for all of us to feel like we’re failing by comparison.

Conversely, O’Reilly defines “mothering” as autonomous, empowered, and priceless social labour that we construct and define according to our deep knowledge of family, community, and personal needs. As a verb rather than a noun, “mothering” is action-oriented and the role is created by those who enact it. Mothering does not require the relinquishment of self but affirms each mother’s right to undertake the role in a manner that is faithful to her authentic self. 

When supporting new mothers I hold space for their joy and discomfort with being called “mama”. I normalize using alternative monikers if that’s preferable. My wife was not comfortable with “mother” as a label, so we went with a variation of her nickname instead. I encourage them to insist on making space for the things that made them “them” before they had their beloved baby. We unpack unrealistic and sexist expectations of moms as they arise. I affirm the need to putting yourself first sometimes, for the overall good of the family. We lay the groundwork for them to define the role according to what works for them and their family. Liberating new mothers from the constraints of motherhood and facilitating their intuitive enactment of mothering is one of my favourite aspects of being a doula. 

 

We hope our woman-identified audience is having an affirming Women’s History Month this March. For those of you who mother, we affirm your right to do this living giving, nurturing work on your terms. [/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_single_image image=”534490″][vc_column_text css=”.vc_custom_1711640593876{margin-bottom: 0px !important;}”]Keira Grant (she/her) Inclusion and Engagement Lead – Racialized Communities

Keira brings a wealth of experience to the Online Community Moderator role. She is a Queer, Black woman with a twenty-year track record in Equity, Diversity, and Inclusion (EDI) education, projects, and community building initiatives.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row]

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Using Doula Care as Community Aid: The Giving Equation

[vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text css=”.vc_custom_1684151324317{margin-bottom: 0px !important;}”]As I’ve been going through our Truth and Reconciliation Action Plan, I’ve been continuously thinking about doula care and community aid, and how we can continue to decolonize our practices. As doula care becomes more “trendy” in current society, as it continues to dominate mostly higher-class spaces, how do we reflect on the roots of doula care, and stay true to community work? Of course, as doulas we do not feed ourselves and pay the bills off of warm and fuzzy feelings, but I think it is realistic to say most of us enter the field with a certain amount of passion and drive to create change in our communities. Whether that be being inspired by our own birth experience, or noticing how much of a difference our own doula made, most of us come to doula care for a deep reason.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text css=”.vc_custom_1684151342874{margin-bottom: 0px !important;}”]However you identify, birth work has the ability to bring folks together. The birth and the postpartum periods are intimate and vulnerable. Individuals from marginalized communities may wish to hire someone with the same identity or lived experience as them. As someone from a certain background you may possess a set of skills, knowledge or spiritual/cultural teachings that someone from an outside identity may not. For example, a Muslim family may choose to hire a Muslim doula who may better understand their traditional customs and practices surrounding birth. An Indigenous family may choose an Indigenous doula who understands and celebrates their practices and understands the risk of violence within the medical system.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text css=”.vc_custom_1684151427232{margin-bottom: 0px !important;}”]

Below are some tips on using your practice and voice as a doula to help your community:

  1. Marry your interests

An easy equation for finding what population you want to serve is this: identifier + lived experience + passions and skills.

Between your lived experiences and passions/interests and skill, lays your intended community. For example, as an Indigenous mental health practitioner who grew up low-income, I chose to narrow my focus on low-income families and trauma survivors. Think about the spaces you frequent, the groups you are a part of, your professional training and hobbies.

 

Identifier: Indigenous, Queer

Lived experience: Poverty

Skill: Social work background

Passion: Trauma

           _______________________________

Target communities:

Indigenous families

Queer Families

Low Income Families

Trauma Survivors

 

2. What can you afford to give?

Whether that is your time, or money, or expertise. Some doulas choose to dedicate acouple of births per year pro-bono or sliding scale. Perhaps, you decide to attend protests and events as a community member that are relevant to your population. You may have resources you don’t mind sharing.or books to loan out. Be creative!

 

3. Advocacy

What issues are impacting your community? How can you use your voice in a way that helps others? Perhaps you can assist in social movements regarding reproductive health.How do you use your social media. What current issues are really important to you?

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These are just a few of the ways that you can take your profession, and use it for social change. What other ways can you make waves?

 

Here are some exploratory journal prompts for you:

  • Why did I choose to become a doula?

  • What social issues am I passionate about?

  • What can I afford to give?

[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text css=”.vc_custom_1684154527320{margin-bottom: 0px !important;}”]-Kayt Ward, EDI Co-lead, BSW[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row]

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Standing out from the Crowd in your Birth Work Business

[vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text css=”.vc_custom_1655208046361{margin-bottom: 0px !important;}”]One of my favourite aspects of getting to know more doulas is hearing everyone’s “Why I became a birth worker story”. While there are common themes, every doula’s story is unique and visceral. Our motivations are often connected to our own experiences of birth trauma or the traumatic experience of a loved one. Others want to disrupt the systemic injustices of the medicalized birth model that have impacted them and their community directly. Others are “birth nerds” who are just fascinated by all things birth and baby. Others remember their own experience of wishing they had had more support and more information and want to provide that for others.

Our specific reasons are as unique as we all are. Yet, many of us struggle to communicate this innate individuality to prospective clients. It can be hard to know how to make what you offer clients sound different from the standard list of doula services: “continuous labour support, informational support, assistance with establishing a good latch, emotional needs during labour, non-medical comfort” etc. All of those services are invaluable, but we also know that parents looking for a doula are not just looking for another clinical person with certain skills. Creating marketing materials that clearly convey how you will deliver those services in a way that is different from any other doula can be very elusive.

This is where brand identity comes into play. To be honest, when I hear the word “brand” the first thing that pops into my head is that shoe company’s swoosh. But branding is actually much more complex than an eye-catching, memorable logo. When we see that iconic swoosh, we have specific feelings and perceptions about who wears those shoes and who we would be in them, as compared to any other athletic footwear.

Similarly, our brand as birth workers needs to make it intuitively clear to prospective clients who we are in the birth room and who our support will affirm them to be. When we connect with our audience using a strong brand identity, our business name, logos, shapes, and colours all fit together seamlessly to tell the story of who we are and how the way we do what we do is different from any other doula in our community.

Another thing I have observed about doulas is that the birth worker community is collaborative rather than competitive. Stemming from our deeply personal reasons for taking up this labour of love, we want our clients to find the best fit for their needs. We want a consistent stream of clients without having to haggle with each other for our share of the market.

On Tuesday, June 14 at 7 PM ET, Business Consultant Gaileen Flaman will be supporting us to ensure that our public presence stands out from the crowd. Using a mix of self-reflection, visualization, and storytelling exercises we will emerge with the ability to market with precision and cohesion. This is an invaluable opportunity for anyone building their business who wants to know how to tap into the clients that are looking for you. You can register for the Building your Brand Webinar here!

 

The webinar will be close-captioned. Ticket holders who are unable to attend the webinar live will receive a recording of the session within two business days.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row]

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What Doulas need to know about the Pelvic Floor

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“The pelvic floor is one of the most important elements to birthing beautifully, but many birth workers and health care providers do not appreciate just how integral it is to the birthing experience” says Pelvic Floor Physiotherapist Ibbie Afolabi

Pelvic Floor Therapy is somewhat of a new element in supporting birthing people and those in the postpartum period.  However, the knowledge of its importance is gaining traction in the birth world.  

So, what is the pelvic floor and why does it need therapy? Think of the pelvic floor like a hammock in your pelvis. It is a group of muscles that stretch from the front of the pelvis to the tailbone, or coccyx. It holds up the bladder, bowel and uterus. In most female and some intersex bodies there are 3 passages, or holes. Those are for the urethra, vagina and anus. They are held firmly by the pelvic floor muscles.  If the pelvic floor muscles are too tight or too loose, this can cause damage or trauma to the area during delivery, this can cause more extensive tearing or prolapse after a vaginal delivery. A pelvic floor therapist will work with you during pregnancy on exercises and muscle focus to help bladder leakage, relieve pelvic pain and discomfort, and help prepare you with breathing and positions for labour. This usually involves an internal exam.

The postpartum person also benefits from pelvic floor physiotherapy. If there was a cesarean, a PFT can aid in internal scar healing. Ibbie says on a website biography “We treat incontinence, pelvic organ prolapse, constipation, pelvic pain, sexual pain and dysfunction, abdominal/gut issues, diastasis rectus abdominis, pregnancy related conditions, and much more.”

With all this information, if you are pregnant or just had a baby, it may be worth looking into pelvic floor therapy.  It is covered under most Health Care insurance plans.  If you are a doula, I highly recommend you network for pelvic floor therapists in your area, go meet them, learn about what they do and add them to your resource list for clients.  Who knows, maybe they will start referring clients to you as well!

 

Ibbie Afolabi can be found teaching courses and supporting people throughout Ontario, including with Doula Canada.  You can find here on these websites:

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The Ultimate Dream Team: Doulas and Partners

[vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text css=”.vc_custom_1642695988103{margin-bottom: 0px !important;}”]If you’ve ever thought, “I don’t need a doula! I have a partner(s),” this post is for you! 

Your partner is (or partners are) pretty amazing and doulas are so happy to have them on board, however, doulas bring different qualities and backgrounds to birth and postpartum preparation and space than partners do. 

Let’s talk about how your partner(s) and doula complement one another and each fill a vital role.

The role of a doula and the role of your partner(s) during labor are vastly different but equally important.

Let me explain….


The Partner’s Role:

The role of your partner(s) (who is/are emotionally attached to you) in labor is a tremendous asset to you in many ways. Your partner(s) provide(s) comfort to you in a way that your doula (aka a new connection) is simply not capable of.

They know you intimately; your fears, your passions, your deep concerns, and your history. They can anticipate your reactions before you have even had them. They are the person/people you look to in life for support and they are likely the person/people you feel most comfortable being your real self with.

Your partner(s) can get your oxytocin flowing (it plays an important role in labour and chestfeeding). Your partner(s) can cuddle, kiss, or massage you in intimate ways that only you and your partner(s) can share.

This relationship in the birthing room and during postpartum is incredibly valuable, HOWEVER, it is not the doulas role.


The Doula’s Role:

The doula’s primary focus during your pregnancy and the postpartum period is education, followed by the support of the decisions you make. The doula is able to answer your questions and lead you to the resources you seek. Through learning about normal physiological birth and birth options, chestfeeding and postpartum concerns partners can feel confident in supporting their partners. But they also have the reassurance of knowing a perinatal professional will be there to guide them.

The doula can actually bring you closer to your partner. By making sure that your partner’s needs are met (food, drink, and reassurance), the birther and partner(s) can work more closely together. The doula allows for the partner(s) to participate at their own comfort level. The doula can fill in and allow the partner(s) to participate as they wish, without leaving the birther or postpartum person’s needs unmet.

The doula is trained to know what is “normal” and what is beyond the scope of normal. The doula’s experience (professional and sometimes personal) enables them to support you confidently. The doula creates a space where the birther and partner(s) are given the opportunity to ask questions and make informed choices.

When a doula attends a birth or supports you in the postpartum period, they bring with them the strength and wisdom of those they have served before you. Being the sole emotional and physical support for a labouring or postpartum person can be overwhelming for some partners. If we look at the birth and postpartum periods throughout history, we often see birthers surrounded by other experienced humans offering continuous support. Our shift in birth norms over the last century has made it uncommon to have multiple continuous support people. Partners provide an intimate and essential role that cannot be replaced, but a doula can come alongside to help and enhance the experience. 

The doula is great at talking about the huge transition that is new parenthood. Especially for first-time parents, it can be so important to have someone to talk to about the big life and identity changes that happen when you bring a new baby into your family. 

The Doula has a network and knows when offering resources and referrals are needed (from pelvic floor physical therapy, counselling support, or chestfeeding resources, to house cleaning services, or information on newborn jaundice, and so much more). 

 

Your birth or postpartum team is not an either/or situation, and no doula would (or could!) ever take the place of your partner. Doulas and partners complement one another and come together to provide loving, compassionate, and judgment-free support along the journey to parenthood. It’s important to assemble your team carefully and think about the mix of personalities and support styles you want involved in your experience, making sure everyone is prepared to walk alongside you with their unique gifts and skills.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row]

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Bringing Your Whole Self into the (Birth) Room

[vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text css=”.vc_custom_1623409186714{margin-bottom: 0px !important;}”]It’s June, which means it’s Pride month here in Ontario as well as many other places across Canada and the world. For many of us who are lesbian, gay, bisexual, trans, queer, and/or Two Spirit, (LGBTQ2S) that means an opportunity to celebrate our identities, our relationships, our families, and our whole fabulous selves. But even as we take to the (virtual) streets, we might wonder about bringing our identities into our work with clients.

You might be wondering, “Why do you have to bring your identity into your work? Why can’t you just keep the two things separate?” Bringing your identity into your work doesn’t necessarily mean beginning every introduction with, “Hi, I’m a doula and I’m gay!” (Though it can!) It means being able to use your pronouns, talk about your family, and share stories without having to edit yourself. It means not just seeing your clients, but also being seen by them.

While everybody has different ideas of professionalism, our work as doulas is deeply personal and relational. Sharing between doulas and clients is rarely one sided, and doesn’t have to be. Straight and cisgender doulas share their identities all the time, whether talking about their husbands or posting a family photo on social media, it’s just not seen as coming out because those identities have already been assumed.   

You might also be wondering how moving through the world as an LGBTQ2S doula might impact your business. It’s a real fear: homophobia and transphobia exist everywhere, and there are families who might choose not to hire you because of how you identify or present yourself. There are also families who will hire you exactly because of these things.  

This doesn’t mean that you have to come out: it’s a deeply personal decision. LGBTQ2S doulas navigate their identities in many different ways. You can incorporate your identity into your business mandate and name, and choose to work primarily with LGBTQ2S communities. You can market to a broader audience but share how you identify in your bio or on social media. You can plaster your website with rainbows. You can ask and expect your clients to use your name and pronouns. You can come out in your meet and greet, or as your relationship with a client builds, or when they ask you about your family. You can come out to some clients and not to others. It’s up to you.

Whatever you choose to do, we’re proud of you.

 

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Making Time for Your Business

[vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text css=”.vc_custom_1620640152795{margin-bottom: 0px !important;}”]Making time for your business or schooling while starting out can feel overwhelming. Everyone is given the same 24 hours in a day. Whether you’re a busy parent, full-time student, working two jobs, or generally just living life through these crazy times, how you choose to break up your day or prioritize your schedule can help make or break your business or learning. 

When you are beginning training in birth work it often feels safer to hide behind books and other learning materials instead of taking the plunge to start your side business. It’s always great to educate yourself, and important for your certification; however, sometimes you just have to put the book down and test things out for yourself. Reading or listening to audiobooks can take up a lot of time. They also don’t sink in as well as learning on the go. It’s okay to be afraid of failure, just don’t become paralyzed by the fear. No book will give you the magic business answer you’re looking for. Everything you need to succeed is already in you. Take a leap of faith and go for it. 

 

So how do you start? Here are some time management techniques that may help you get organized. [/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text css=”.vc_custom_1620639964218{margin-bottom: 0px !important;}”]The Pomodoro Technique

A time focused technique to help you find time to start a side business is the Pomodoro Technique. This technique requires you to first prioritize your daily tasks. Then, you can set a timer for 25 minutes and take a five minute break between sets. After completing four 25-minute sets you can take a 20 minute break. This allows you to have laser focus on a task for 25 minutes and allowing you to disconnect from your work for a five minute break. This is helpful for those who need to check their phones constantly as it works in time for quick breaks. You can use your phone’s timer or you can search ‘timer’ in Google and a timer will pop up[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][mk_image src=”https://stefanie-techops.wisdmlabs.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/pomodoro-tech.png” image_size=”full”][vc_empty_space][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text css=”.vc_custom_1620640473548{margin-bottom: 0px !important;}”]80/20 Rule

The 80/20 rule, also known as the Pareto Principle, suggests that 80% of your results comes from 20% of your output. To find time to start a side business, you need to determine which things are producing the results to focus time on only those things. You can also use this principle to determine which part of your daily routine isn’t producing results for you. For example, if you spend your weekends marathoning shows on Netflix, sleeping in or going out, you may have better results cutting back to make time for your side business.

 

Now for the tips on how to keep going: 

Be aware of Time Wasters

Avoid spending time on things that don’t bring results. Some people spend an entire week designing a logo or crafting the perfect 20-page business plan. However, those tasks don’t generate money for your business. A business plan can start off as a one-pager and be modified along the way. If you lack design skills, you can outsource your logo, or use a tool such as an online logo maker which can be extremely simple to use, and will help you save a lot of time. Or If the task can be modified or changed along the way, there’s no need to overspend time on it. Create a list of priorities such as creating ads, partnering with influencers, producing unique content such as blog posts or social media posts or managing your finances. Then, focus your workload on the top priorities which yield the best results.

 

Set Firm Deadlines

Setting firm deadlines for projects forces you to make time to work on your business. By not allowing yourself to be flexible, you’ll do whatever it takes to make it happen such as waking up earlier or avoiding distractions. What goals do you want to achieve? When do you want to achieve each goal? Write down exact dates. You’ll find that more often than not, you’re able to achieve your goals by the deadline.

 

Don’t Waste Time on Social Media, Maximize It

Without a doubt, social media is a very powerful tool. It reaches out to hundreds upon thousands of people at once. Make sure your business is engaged in social media. This helps you stay relevant. Your content must provide some type of value to your audience. That value could be education, increased productivity, entertainment, or cost savings. It also needs to be in your voice. Share who you are and engage with your audience in an authentic way!

Social media can be addicting. Most of us have the tendency to check our news feed repeatedly throughout the day. You can download a tool like the Chrome extension News Feed Eradicator to help prevent you from getting distracted for hours on Facebook. The tool blocks your news feed without you having to delete or deactivate your Facebook account. If you know social media is slowing down your business’ progress this is a great quick fix solution. Stay focused on your goal, and don’t let yourself get distracted.

 

Learn to Say No

Richard Branson once said, “Business opportunities are like buses, there’s always another one coming.” So while it might be tempting to say yes to every opportunity, saying no often may actually work in your favor. Saying no gives you time to work on things you say yes to. It can help improve your productivity while also creating boundaries. Avoid agreeing to every opportunity or trying every tactic at the same time. Having a laser-like focus can help you achieve your goals faster because you’ll learn how to master things quickly.

 

Hang onto your Enthusiasm

If you ponder over what differentiates an average person from one who has achieved stupendous success, you will realize that it may be the intensity of enthusiasm that has helped the highly successful person reach such great heights. Those who could accomplish great things in their chosen fields could not have done so without enthusiasm.

If you are enthusiastic about a particular goal, you will be so excited that you will do your best in order to achieve it. It will keep you motivated to go on and on with it. This does not mean you will work on it all the time, but even if you are not your mind will constantly be thinking about the goal you are enthusiastic about. It is exactly your subconscious mind that will be focusing on the things you are passionate & enthusiastic about. A lot of research has taken place about the power of the subconscious mind and these researches have revealed that it has enormous powers. When it constantly works on a thing you are enthusiastic about, you will get great ideas and this will fast-track your success.

 

Divide your Time: For Work, Family and Yourself 

Schedule in family time, downtime and work time. When it’s on the calendar, that means you’ve prioritized it and planned for it. Once it’s on the calendar, defend it at all costs. If you have work tasks to do, focus on them distraction-free. If you said you’d stop working at a specific time and relax with family, be sure to stick to that and completely unplug.

That means it’s more likely to happen. For example, if you want to plan a weekly date with your spouse, it’s much better to put it on your calendar set to a specific day and time instead of just saying you’ll get around to it when you can.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text css=”.vc_custom_1620639940087{margin-bottom: 0px !important;}”]As much as investing in your business is important, investing in yourself will make the business thrive. 

Success doesn’t happen overnight- it takes time to build a successful business, and there certainly isn’t a secret formula to success. It takes passion, and a lot of determination and resilience, not to mention confidence, and an appetite to take risks. Invest in yourself, schedule and keep your enthusiasm high and you will achieve great things! [/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row]